The eldest of my 4 children and I could not agree on anything, from the day he was born. Over the years, we just grew apart. He moved his family to a different state. I didn’t see him for over 12 years. I had never met my grandson in person.
When I spoke with my son on the phone it was always with a lot of conflict. We would constantly argue. I got to the point where I wondered if I even wanted to answer the phone when he would call. The worst thing was that I didn’t know if I could ever make a difference with him. As a success coach and management consultant, I was skilled at helping people resolve conflict and improve their lives; however with this personal situation, I felt completely stuck. Even a mother’s love was not enough.
After I enrolled in the Energy for a Successful Life Lecture Series, I decided to use the tools from the course to try and create a success with my son. I used the Energy exercises and the support system on a daily basis.
In fact, I created goals in the course to have ALL of my relationships grow stronger and healthier. I followed Dr. Morguelan’s instructions in the Lecture Series to make this happen. I began doing the Energy exercises before every phone call I had with my son. I wrote Energy goals as I was answering the phone that we would have a lovely conversation and to improve our relationship.
One day after a couple months of writing the Energy goals every day, out of the blue (or out of the Energy ) my phone rang and it was my son. He said he was going to be in town and wanted to see me! I couldn’t believe he was reaching out to me for a visit.
When my son arrived at my home, the most amazing thing happened. He came to the door, I looked at him and all that was present between us was pure love.
There was nothing to say, nothing to do, and nothing to process. It was as if we had a new relationship all of a sudden after all those years. My son said, “Mom, I love you.” We gave eachother a huge hug with tears running down our faces.
We haven’t had an argument since that special day. Our new Energy way of relating to eachother with love and respect has been a success for our family. My son and his wife even moved back to Austin! And I got to meet my handsome, wonderful grandson.
Today my son and I have a loving and fun relationship. When we disagree we have realized it is ok! We don’t have to agree and we can still be loving and respectful to eachother.
This Energy has helped me to realize that all relationships can be healthy and mutually beneficial. I believe my children came into my life for a reason and I honor them. I honor my son and he honors me. This Energy allows diversity without conflict.