At last, we’ve reached the final conclusion of our discussion about serendipity, the energy, and your goals. As an example of this lesson, I told you the story of an encounter a successful business consultant had with his client concerning a bad situation that happened between them in the past. In the first part of my story, you heard how the consultant moved through four steps to a decision to act. In the second, he used the Energy to improve his relationship with his client. In the next section you heard what happened when he finally met with his client face-to-face. And finally, last week, we cycled back to the part of the consultant’s story when he apologized to his client. And now, I conclude by explaining how all of this led to the serendipity of the Energy.
The serendipity of the Energy is not going to happen in a situation like this without going through those steps that we talked about in part 1 of this series.
- The FIRST step is: “What’s the action?”
- The SECOND step is: “I’m going to have to do something.”
- The THIRD step is: “What am I going to do?”
- The FOURTH step is: You decide what action to take
- The FINAL step is: You recognize that there isn’t much value, or any value at all, in giving an apology.
Instead of an apology, a conversation becomes valuable when you find out what the other person wants you to do in that situation, and then ask them again if there is anything else they want you to do. If you can give them the commitment that they have asked for, continue your commitment to them in the future.
If you don’t get stuck in the apology energy, you get into the make-it-happen Energy.
What does this mean? It means you want to clean up the past, you want to say there was a misunderstanding, and then you want to redefine who you are.
So you say, “We are the kind of guys who really want to do this, this and this for you. Not only do we want to do all of this for you, we can also guarantee you it will happen (because you want to provide this in the future).
When the meeting is finished, send an email to annotate the accomplishments of the meeting. Also, you should say that you look forward to any phone calls, emails, and connections you will have in the future and then thank them for their time. The reason you are thanking them for their time is because, in this day and age, people have so little time to spend. So, it’s important to acknowledge this with a thank you.
Serendipity of the Energy
Doing and saying these things allow the serendipity of the Energy to have an effect.
Like I said in the beginning, if you are feeling:
- Woe is me.
- I don’t know what I’m going to do.
- I’m going to run away.
- I’m sad, I’m frustrated, I’m irritated.
- I’m angry.
- I’m disrespected.
- I don’t deserve this.
You need to know that all of those sentiments may be true, but they are simply part of the process. By going step by step, we identified that these feelings are part of what happens when someone surprisingly kicks you from the matrix. You have to go through that phase before you can work your way out of it using the steps I outlined above.
When you have gone through all of the steps prior to, during, and after a situation like the one the consultant had with his client and then walk outside, you will suddenly notice the trees, the sky, and the beautiful surroundings.
The Energy has now been exploded into your bridge, or has been created in your bridge, by you bringing the Energy into your conversation. Now, you have bridges to your environment—so, you’ll start to notice that the sky looks so much prettier, the trees look so much prettier, and other people look so much nicer. And, that’s part of the Energy serendipity acting there.
And, now, like a very good mystery, you should ask yourself, “Well, now what am I going to do?” Now that you have the Energy firepower, what are you going to do just sit there and relax on it?
That’s up to you. But, now that you got it going, why not keep it going?